Okay so i’m 17 years old, live in the uk if that helps.
Been with my boyfriend for near enough a year now, (we did have a 3 month split though) i lived with him for 5 months until we split, this was due to the fact my mum and my family didn’t like him because he is a heroin addict (don’t judge please). He is on methadone. I thought the world of him, in the end it got to much with the trouble from my family we had to split.
Anyway we got back together and my mum told me i couldn’t see him she would throw me out the house if i did.. anyway i felt so low i actually ended up takng crack and heroin with him (my own choice) my mum now knows about my drug use as i accidently injected and OD. I still smoke it (i am also getting help and getting subutex to get off it)
In the mean time my mum has thrown me out the house, i’ve had to go and move in with my dad (he doesn’t want me there he asked my mum to take me back, she won’t) he is never there always working or out drinking. I feel so alone, my mum is also on about banning me from coming and visiting her unless i get clean and stop seeing my boyfriend. She calls me fat, a druggie, junkie, smackhead ect…!! things like that don’t help me..!! She also says horrible things about my boyfriend too.
I don’t want to be living with my dad, he isn’t there for me, it doesn’t feel like home, and i just feel so alone, Yet when i visit my mum i get arguments and judgement. I can’t win the only place im happy is with my boyfriend. I also have no other family i speak too apart from dad, mum, brother and they all think the same.
Thing is i can get clean and im going too but i can’t leave my boyfriend i do love him and he has more or less stuck by me through everything and my family caused him alot of greif but he still wants to be with me.
My mum is also moving quite a while away very soon so i have no choose if im moving with her and not seeing my boyfriend again or stay here and loose her.
She has said i need to choose between him and her… i can’t, i want my family and my boyfriend.. i can’t choose, help???
Harmony
April 29, 2010 at 6:24 am
Don’t be stupid.
You’re going to have to choose your family.
BearsGoBears
April 29, 2010 at 6:36 am
I would make you choose too…if you want to be dumb enough to stay with an addict then you’ve got some serious mental problems.
uni boy
April 29, 2010 at 7:34 am
Sorry Im the most romantic easy going one here and saying you two are no good for each other… you cant trust junkies you have to get clean 100% and him to 100% forever. You really need to move somewhere new and start a new life leaving everything behind ideally some village or somewhere no temptation
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SurferDuude
April 29, 2010 at 7:43 am
Your mother has brought you up and fed you !, for 17 years! and you met this one guy for a year and you don’t know what to do :/ How do you know you two aren’t going to split up again?, and then where are you going to live? in a dustbin ? Look you got the rest of your life ahead you don’t need to mess it up know please:), Get CLEAN and live with your mum !
Sonal
April 29, 2010 at 7:55 am
10 years down the line, when you’re happily married with a loving husband and wonderful kids, you’ll thank that day when you chose FAMILY over a messed up druggie.
Why would you want to be with your bf anyway ? You think he can support you for the rest of your life ? Or will he gladly exchange you for a free bag of heroin ? You want to be with such a guy, over a woman who kept you inside her for 9 months, and then took good care of you for another 17 years, just to see her little daughter ditch her for some druggie she met a year ago ?
Your Mom’s being harsh because she knows being sweet and soft with you wont work on you.
Please tell me WHY you want to be with your guy. Because he’s kept you happy ? For one year ? What about your Mom ? Hasn’t she taken care of you for 17 years ?
Plus, if you elope with that guy, and if he’s over 18, your Mom can get him behind bars under the charges of kidnapping, because you’re still a MINOR. You dont want this, do you ?
Leave him. Your Mom’s the one who will be with you through thick and thin. Believe me. NOTHING’S worth leaving your family for.
♥ new beginnings ♥
April 29, 2010 at 8:48 am
Here is what I would do buy yourself some time. Go to an in treatment reabilitation center get totaly clean and just think. Honey it sounds like you don’t have much of a support system but your mother she just doesn’t want you on drugs. Being an addict is no fun. Lets think your boyfriend has managed to get you on highly addicting and ILLEGAL drugs, has torn your family apart, while there is love and I bet you do love him there are so many people out there and to be honnest druggie relationships don’t last, what will happen when he decides drugs are more important than you. Plus you have already split once this isn’t going to last.Please think things over.
Rachel
April 29, 2010 at 9:31 am
Really, think about it, look at how your future would be.
Choose your family
Jennifer-Kate
April 29, 2010 at 10:20 am
Family should always come first, especially at your age. Your boyfriend may not always be around for you. You might change your mind about wanting to date him soon; I know you won’t believe me when I tell you this but you never know. If you split up for a few months, the next time could be the final straw. I advise you to go with your mum and tell your boyfriend that you still want to be friends (if that’s ok with your mum).
You should definitely talk to your mum about your relationship too. Let her know that even though you may have made some bad choices, you don’t want to go there again and that you want support. Tell her that you are very hurt by the things she has said or done but that you want to improve your relationship.
Please listen to me and other people’s answers – It will be better for you long term.