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Would you help me to escape from my computer addiction please?

03 Sep

My situation
I really need your suggestions, info, links, et cetera to get me break away from this computer addiction please. I have been living with computer since its advent, and I have been too long in this bit and byte world. I have almost no problem with my family and/or social matters (maybe), but certainly, I have problems with myself. I realize that my addiction to computer and internet has seized big values of my life. Please do not assume that I am addicted to the gaming, gambling, chatting, or sexual leisure online. I think I have really got the most of the computing and internet, I got answers for my quests in life: history, languages, hobbies, health, skill improvement, and other eye-openers, but I realized that at the end I just barely do not recognize myself. I knew that before the PC arrival, I was a simple human with a romantic and artistic mind inside, and then later I evolved to such a robot, to be precise: a slave of the technology. The internet had made me more tied to the PC, at first it delivered me the news of the world, marvelous things found there within the clicks and so on, but then made me deep drown into the pond of information.

The cost and the lost
Having knowledge to computer hardware made me always upgrade my gears. It made me spend big cost just to fulfill my lust over those times. My room is full with the old gears, gadgets, and things from online stores. My PCs and notebooks are full with MP3s, PDFs, and many things downloaded both free and paid. I also spent for many external/ portable harddisks for backing up and traveling. I do not mean to showoff, I just tell you how worse it was from time to time during about 20 years. I sometimes think about the lost time for repairing my gears, updating my softwares, browsing; and how many books that I have not read completely.

There was a break
One time, in two straight months last year, I spent my times with my son playing Tamiya, small racing cars in small tracks. It was wonderful that it made me totally forgot my computers. We have had most of the time together for racing, modifying, winding the wires for the tiny motors, etc. My wife was so amazed that the toys have made me away from the PC. It ended because of the coming rainy season that made us packed and boxed back the tracks and cars, and I simply switched back to the old routine.

In search of healing
I remember a precious phrase: Two kinds of those who lost; they are who looks for wealth and for knowledge. This phrase sometimes wakes me up but bad habit is addicting and I found myself always returned into that path. I think it is just similar to drug addiction. As the internet is an endless resource, I search through it for the cure, and I have found some articles about it and tried to implement them, but it always hard for me to liberate myself from my habit. I really hope that finally I find it in this forum, especially from you.

Your helps, Please
I know that some of you are familiar to manage some types of dependence, or maybe you have healed from the same situation. Whether you have some psychological, spiritual expertise, certain medication, or exercises, please share your advice, I need it badly. I do not want to clog the rest of my life in that digital world. There must be somebody else also in pain from the same thing, your kind suggestion will be very valuable and it will save some life. Thank you very much for sparing your time reading this lengthy note. God bless you.

PS:
I post this in Computing & Internet, Health, and Social Science with time interval, hoping to net more inputs.
Please do not waste your time to put any unpleasant or unnecessary words, consider it will not only read by me but also by the other fellow readers. If you are not in the same situation with me, you perhaps still have the advantage of knowing the answers. Thank you, again.

 
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What should be expected from friends and family when they find out you have an addiction?

15 Jul

What would be the right way to treat a friend or family member?
and what would be the wrong thing to do?

 
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How do you tell your family you suffer from “addiction” and want help?

06 Jul
 
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Do you think someone can recover from a gambling addiction by reading the medical books and online discussion?

29 Jun

I am curious to the opinions of others. Do you think that someone can recover from a compulsive gambling problem by reading online materials and other resources, or do you think it is necessary for that person to attend Gamblers Anonymous Meetings or other recovery meetings of some kind?

 
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How to write a resume for massage therapy from welding experience?

08 Jun

I worked as a welder for 14 yrs. I am graduating from a Massage Therapy program soon. How do I use my past job skills in my new profession?

 
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Did tiger woods really get HIV Aids from his affairs?

07 Jun

I heard one of the girls he had an affair with has HIV AIDS and that Tiger Woods got it now and thats why his wife was so upset. I guess all the money in the world doesnt really mean much when your immune system is shut down.

 
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I need a book to help a grandmother detach from addict grandson?

06 Jun

Can anyone recommend a good book to help a grandmother stop enabling her drug addicted grandson? She doesn’t identify with the concept of codependency and just needs some help to understand how her well-motivated behavior is misguided and how to stop enabling.

 

Where do you draw your hope from when you have hit rock-bottom?

06 Jun

I am 38 and I have lost all hope and desire to live. All I want is freedom from my pain.

First suicide attempt at age 16
Last suicide attempt was last Wednesday – it was my tenth.
(I know pretty sad that after ten tries I can’t even get that right).

I have seen the inside of multiple emergency rooms and psych units over the years. I have been to more doctors, counselors, shrinks, therapists, alternative medical specialists, rehabs, and groups than I can even count anymore.

If there is a medication out there, they have tried it on me.

I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, anxiety disorder, and major depressive disorder. I am a cutter and I have an eating disorder. I had a habitual marijuana and sleeping pill addiction which I have under control, but I still crave everyday. I also quit drinking. I just finished going through bankruptcy for the 45K in credit card debt I racked up due to a spending addiction. I was married once and have had multiple live-in partners – I drove them all away because I am “crazy”.

I am currently in a treatment program (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), it has been five months and I still feel little hope.

I cry everyday, I am lost and empty, I want freedom from the emotional pain I live with constantly. I feel I have no worth or purpose. I have lost all hope as I have been in treatment so many times and yet, here I am again.

How many times can a person hit rock-bottom and still find the courage and strength to try?

I go to therapy, I go to group therapy, I volunteer, I exercise, I try to take good care of myself, I meditate daily, I work with my higher power but still I feel no hope.

What now?

 
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Is it terrible to have a child from a guy that is recovering from cocaine addiction.?

05 Jun

I am fourty years old and desperately wanting a child. Met this guy a year ago. I am in love with him but don’t trust that he can stay sober. I am also worried about the sperm and whether the baby will be ok. I am financially secure and was even thinking of sperm bank before he came in the pic. Now pressured by time, worried not to make the wrong decisions.

 
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What can prevent Addict from taking drugs?

05 Jun

Hi
i want to know exactly what method can be effective?

1- Extreme love (if loved one wants his/her leave it)
2- Drugs that causes you to hate Drugs
3- brainwash

or any other method.
Thanks.

 

How can I move on from my former therapist?

04 Jun

I have been seeing a female therapist since Nov.2.2007. And i developed a crush on her.
And now she switched me to see a male therapist. And i am having trouble to let her go, I become extremely depressed and very down over this, And i don’t know how to let go of her.
I bought her a christmas card but i am not sure whether i should give it to her. Please help me.
I think she is married and I am a 22 years old female.

 

I often get flashbacks from trauma which I have dealt with.?

01 Jun

So why is it that this horrible event continues to haunt me.
I am happily re-married. I have two beautiful children. I have a great job.
I handle stress well. I had counselling after the event. Yet this terrible past keeps resurfacing its ugly head. I focus on positive thoughts and I use laughter as a medicine. Can I blame this on hormones??? Maybe some-one with similar woes can help me?

 
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How is Tiger Woods any different from most athletes that have Affairs?

29 May

Why is the media acting like Tiger Woods is the only athlete that has affairs when we all know most athletes and politicians have affairs.

Why is the media and everybody so hypocritical.
Michael Jordan’s had affairs

Kobe Bryant’s had affairs

Mickie Mantle’s had affairs

Wilt Chamberland had sex with 22,000 women.

 
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Can you become addicted to nicotine from second hand smoke?

22 May

My whole family smokes and i have been around second hand smoke like my whole life. I am now in college and for the first few weeks i had bad headaches and i was real jittery. When i go home i feel fine and relaxed but when i come back to college i the headaches and the jittery feelings come back for a few days. Am i addicted to nicotine from second hand smoke or is it just all in my head for some reason. If you have sites to back up your answers that would be great. And if you have any advice on what i should do, please share! Thanks

 

Are the odds 2 to 1 that a gambling addict can’t recover from his compulsions to gamble?

18 May

To put it another way, is he just rolling the die on his chances?