HE SITS ON THE DAMN THING FOR AT LEAST EIGHT HOURS A DAY!!!!!!!!! I leave for work at 2, I come home at 10, SAME SPOT, same laundry, same dishes, same mess in the room, same everything!! We have a baby girl who’s 11 months and I KNOW he just ignores her and sits on the computer. He is leaving for basic training in a couple of months so you think he would spend more time with her! It’s gotten to the point that I want to quit my job so I can be at home with her to ensure she is getting the attention and love she deserves!
No, he does not work! No, he will NOT do any housework! And if he does one thing, he brings it up for the rest of the week, even if it’s just putting the damn clothes I WASHED in the dryer, not even folding them..
Should I take the risk of him f-cking DIVORCING me and throw all his game discs out the window and set a timer thing for Warcraft so he can only play for an hour a day? He will be so pissed, but I don’t know what else to do!
let me clarify, he does feed her and change her diaper.. sometimes he slips on the diaper thing. But seriously, we have to rush home if we leave to do anything so he can come home and get on the computer. He won’t admit it or say it outright, but he whines the whole time we are doing anything until we get home, then he runs up the stairs and starts playing f-cking games!!!!!!!
yes major tom, when i met him almost six years ago, he was sitting on the computer playing games. exactly why i married him. thanks for your useless input.
jacqueline – “and don’t tell me they don’t pay mothers in your country to stay at home and take care of a child till a child is 3 years old.”
that’s called welfare, and i don’t know about YOUR country, but in america welfare is something you do not want to be on. again, thanks for your useless answer. i didn’t ask pity for being married to this man, i asked for solutions or different views since i am not a sorry ass who just gives up on marriage like every other person nowadays. every marriage has problems, i am asking for help, instead of just walking out.
also–in two months he will be leaving for basic training, so i guess the loser term doesn’t really fit, i am just asking for help in the here and now–i want help before he stops showering and shaving to sit online, ha!
Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’
My husband’s ridiculous, marriage ruining computer addiction!?
Is a lip balm addiction a sign of bad marriage?
Heavy users describe themselves as fidgety people who need a security blanket. That’s surely something that will affect their marriage. What’s your view on this?
(source: http://yanswersblog.com/index.php/archives/2010/07/07/ask-mike-addicted-to-lip-balm/ )
LILF, enlighten me please?
Online degree in marriage and family therapy?
I’m looking to get my MA/MS degree in marriage and family therapy online. Any recommendations for any good, reputable programs offered exclusively or primarily online? I’m trying to stay AWAY from the for-profit colleges!
In a dull phase of marriage, should husband worry about wife’s internet addiction?
life getting along okay, but just about okay; wife deeply absorbed in internet contacts. Is is something to worry about? and if it is something to worry about, what to do?
drug addiction and marriage?
me and my wife have been married for 8 years and have two boys we both have drug problems i left her last year to quit i went back in hopes she would to but she hasnt since then we have had a terriable time seems we fight about every thing and i always have to be the one to swollow my pride and just make changes to make her happy and she does very little and expects me to be excited over it she said she is affraid to let me in her heart again because i left is she just trying to control the situation or what she is still using and said i am tryin to control her by manting her to stop
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I am clean and sober and keep my kids away from her drug use the best I can she said she wants to work it out but wont quit only reason i stay is for my boys
New marriage new found addiction loss of trust sorry for the spelling i have dyslexia?
I have been married jist over a year and in that time i found that my wife is addicted to sleeping pill.(She overdosed acadentley last november that was my wakeup call) Have been to several theapest that told hir it was just a bad time in her life and that she was not addicted. Finel two moths ago i was at the end of my rope after finding more pill I moved out. Found hir a therapest that spechelized in addiction and got hir set up with this person. now my wife has been clean for a month. Wih the addiction come all the challanges it has on a relationship. during that time my wife has been a pathalogacal lyer ling about everything from money to leagel issies ifound ot that she had file for bancrupsey 4 years ago thing just seem to keep poping up. She is a great gir that i love very much but i dont trust her any more! I am alway thinking i will find more pill alway seeking around to see wat she has in hir pures or car lookinf for the pills. How do i get over the trust probloms or will I??
Where can i get free online marriage therapist who helps christian couples with their marriages?
how do you patch up a marriage that has been thru drug addiction, cheating. but the bad is over for awhile now
now we are moving toward healing (it was my fault pretty much) but communication and intimacy skills just aren’t what they used to be. We both love eachother deeply and have been together 16 years so we want this to work and counseling hasn’t helped. We need romance. He has lost his romantic side. HELP!
After addiction and recovery,Is the marriage gone, or not?
My husband and I have been married for almost a year. We dated for about 2 years before we got married. He is active duty military and is currently away from home.
I love my husband dearly but I just don’t see any happiness in our lives. I don’t see a bright future as I once did.
He has recently come clean of being an addict and is now going to meeting which I don’t have a problem with at all anything to make it better. But what I do have a problem with is how he causes a fight before he goes in order to feel better about going. I have a few other issues since he has started going, such as I am constantly being told that I don’t have time for you I need to worry about myself and getting better. It’s like me and the children don’t exist in his life anymore. I also have a problem with him not understanding or being willing to understand how I am feeling.
I constantly ask him and myself if you have the time to work on your addiction then why is there no time at all to work on our marriage. He wants me to change everything about myself to appease his recovery but yet he can’t show love, affection, compassion. I always get the answer of I am here and you are there so what can I do, NOTHING! I am so hurt and so confused and about to throw in the towel and say its over. He should be home in a couple of months and I get the answer of it will be different when I get home. But really whats going to be different, I have to look at him knowing how angry, hurt, and betrayed he has made me feel? How can someone think that things will be back to normal just because they are home now? I mean I have to wait for my husband to treat me with respect and dignity? I tell him that when the hurt is there it doesnt just go away because you came home, it still there if not worse because then I would have to face you face to face. So when the damage is done you can’t just forget it and act like it never happened.
He refuses to listen to my words of hurt and trying to get help to save this he thinks that over time I will just “get over it”. Please help me, I am so confused on what to do, but I can’t keep going on living in this mannor and feeling the way I do. I get so angry with him and once it starts it just doesnt stop.
Have you dealt with addiction in your marriage?
My husband has a porn addiction and refuses to see a therapist. We do not have sex…by his choice.
I love him, I know he loves me, he just can’t face this problem.
What should I do?
how do you know when your marriage is over besides from the obvious, cheating, drugs, alcohol addiction?
if you and your spouse never cheated on each other, have not filed for divorce, no addiction to drugs or alcohol, no physical or emotional abuse, no kids, both have no interest in other people, but married life is not what you expected it to be, we are married for 2 years now, how did you both know that your marriage was over and it was time to end it, when is love just not enough?
Can a marriage survive a porn addiction?
My husband says he is obsessed with looking at porn. He admitted to sharing nude photos over the internet with another woman who he talked to over the course of a few months (would you consider that cheating?). He also said that he has a secret obsession with violent sex in which he has complete control over the person he’s with (like violent spanking, boot licking…things like that). He has never told me he was in to things like that, he has always been kinda timid. If he goes to counseling can he ever get over this? Has anyone else ever dealt with a situation like this??
What different types/styles of marriage counseling are there?
My husband and I would like to do some marriage counseling to help with some problems we currently have but I don’t know what kind of counseling would be best. I’m sure there is counseling that is done in a group or one on one, but what else is out there? Are there different names for the different types or styles of counseling? What are they?
I’d like to do some research to see what would be best for us.