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What can you do when you love a drug addict?

07 Mar

What can you do when you love a drug addict but you know they won’t stop?

Any stories? I’m interested in hearing.

 
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  1. swearbyit

    March 7, 2010 at 7:10 am

    by supporting their drug use, you are enabling them to continue doing drugs.

    if you are serious about being with this person, stage an intervention with family and friends, and give him / her an ultimatum. tell them you can support them through rehab, but you cannot support them through drug use.

    you might have to leave this person. but it is for their best interest. you cannot be an enabler!

     

  2. Cassie T

    March 7, 2010 at 8:05 am

    Well, you have 2 choices.

    1. Be miserable.
    2. Dump them.

    Seriously. If he’s not willing to stop, all he’s going to do is bring you down. In the worst case scenario, you may even start doing drugs yourself. But at the very least, you’re allowing him to continue destroying his life by sticking by him and enabling him. He needs to learn that his habit is going to cost him the things he loves. And there’s no reason you need to put up with it.

    You can’t help someone who doesn’t want your help. So, it’s time to leave.

    BTW, If he’s said he won’t stop, don’t bother with an intervention. It’s not going to help. He’s an adult and you can’t force him to get treatment.

    Just leave.

     

  3. Jared

    March 7, 2010 at 9:03 am

    Get himger some help and don’t get mixed up with them!

     

  4. dylang

    March 7, 2010 at 9:13 am

    Intervention. if you love them, get them help. don’t let their life go to waste.

     

  5. Lila

    March 7, 2010 at 9:15 am

    With a drug addict you really don’t know who he really is and he doesn’t either. His personality and character have been taken over by the drugs. Part of recovery is learning who you are. You are in love with someone who really isn’t a complete person. This is such a waste of your time and your life if he won’t get help. If he does get help do everything you can to help and support him. If he refuses walk away and don’t go back. This is not real love this is dependency.

     

  6. iluvbirds25

    March 7, 2010 at 10:03 am

    I don’t have any stories, but I attend AA and I have heard a lot of disaster stories that started out this way.

    I hate to tell you this, but I seriously believe if you stay with person, you are going down, down, down. You are smarter than that, or you would not be asking for help. I think you know the answer already and just need some validation that this is your obvious choice. Even if you do not do drugs, just by being around people who do, you could land you in jail, and ruin your career.

    I wish you the best. I know this is hard for you.

     

  7. weaver268

    March 7, 2010 at 11:02 am

    You must give them an ultimatum, but they will never stop using drugs for you or mom or dad or even God unless they want to do it for themselves. Addiction is an illness that only leads to Jails, institutions or death. They will lie, cheat or steal if they cannot keep there habit going and if you are their to support them you are only enabling them, meaning you are helping them with there addiction.

     

  8. Gigglez

    March 7, 2010 at 11:09 am

    I’ve been there before. Ask him to get help. If he loves you back he will.

     

  9. AlmostFamous

    March 7, 2010 at 11:09 am

    you can love them and support them into stopping.. i got nothing…

     

  10. inexplicable9742

    March 7, 2010 at 11:19 am

    Ttry to get this person help like on Intervention.

     

  11. Jill E

    March 7, 2010 at 11:59 am

    “What can you do when you love a drug addict but you know they won’t stop?”

    You can go into it with your eyes wide open, knowing that life is going to be pretty much hell. There will be no money and no sort of life outside of his drug taking. He will be unreliable, irresponsible. If you love him then that may be your choice.

    Or you can walk away now and suffer the agonies of trying to get over the relationship. It might take a year, it might take 2. But if you make this choice then in 10 years time you will look back and be so thankful that you did.

    Living with a drug addict is a life of on-going misery. You will always come 2nd to the drugs.

    Don’t stay and think you can change him, that just won’t happen. If the prospect of losing you doesn’t make him stop, then nothing is likely to.

    Better to suffer the pain of a break up now, than years of pain with no possible end of it in sight.